This is my November blog post for HeartSupport, a ministry of XXXChurch that helps people dealing with addictions. I blog monthly for them about my past with pornography addiction and how to break free from it. You can read this post below or at HeartSupport.com soon.
If you know someone who’s dealing with lust or porn issues, send them a link to this blog (copy and paste this link into an email: http://wp.me/pPotl-tyHUk) or to HeartSupport.com and pray for their healing. Pornography is a multi-billion dollar business that grips lives, and wrecks families and marriages. In the last 20 seconds that it took you to read these 2 paragraphs, $61,512.80 was spent on porn.
Yeah, it’s that big of a deal.
Thanksgiving is quickly approaching and it’s a big day in America…and a small day for porn!
Statistically, Thanksgiving Day is the least popular day of the year for viewing porn.
That’s great and all, but it’s sad to think that the next day, the stats spike again. So I thought we’d take a look at a few things that make Thanksgiving Day so much different and how can we make the other 364 days of the year statistically more like Thanksgiving!
One thing that’s definitely different about Thanksgiving is broken routines. Thanksgiving Day (in America, at least) is much different than most of the other 364 days of the year. Most people have the day off of work, and the day is often focused on rest, football, cooking, eating, and/or napping. That combination makes for a pretty unique day of the year. Routines can be good…but they can also be bad.
Speaking from years of past porn addiction, I know all about the bad side of routines. You can get into a routine of going about your normal day, knowing that the opportunity will arise to get your porn fix some time during the day. There’s often a “normal” time for it to happen…
- you know when your boss normally goes to lunch, leaving you alone in the office
- you know how early to wake up or late to go to bed so that your spouse/parents will never know
- you know what time your spouse/parents get home from work so you can be logged off the computer and erase your internet history right in time to greet them at the door
One thing that could really aid in breaking your porn addiction is to break your routine. Make sure that you are occupied when you know that opportunity may arise: schedule a meeting, go to lunch, sleep in a little later or go to bed earlier, do some homework, go for a walk… Do whatever it takes to make sure you’re busy when that opportunity arises. Whatever sacrifice you have to make WILL be worth it!
FOCUSING ON THE POSITIVE
The idea behind the Thanksgiving holiday is found right in the name: giving thanks. Although Christians are commanded to be thankful in all circumstances, it comes very naturally on a day like Thanksgiving. Everyone is doing it, even most of the grouchy people!
Pornography sends the message that what you have isn’t fulfilling enough – you’re not thankful for what you have. Thankfulness and satisfaction in what God has provided for you can help kill porn.
Maybe what your lust-induced sickness needs is a healthy dose of thankfulness. Switching your mindset from the negative to the positive can be a good way to clear your mind and remember that God has blessed you – whether you feel like you have a little or a lot. When you feel the temptation arise to look at porn, take a minute to thank God for what you do have instead of lusting after what you don’t have.
FAMILY & FRIENDS
Another thing Thanksgiving Day often includes is a house full of family and friends. Families across America get together to celebrate, watch the game, and eat together. For some people, almost every room in the house has someone in it. That’s a great thing for partying and a bad thing for porn.
One thing that always ruins (in a good way) a chance to view porn is the presence of family and friends. Because of the guilt that naturally goes with viewing pornography, it’s normally done in a private setting, when no one is around.
For me, killing porn involved including others in my addiction. That doesn’t mean getting them hooked, it means letting them know you’re hooked. It involves honesty and humility – 2 things that aren’t comfortable for anyone, but necessary for everyone. There are lots of ways to include others…
- install X3Watch on all your computers (including your work computer), your iPhone, your iPad, or your Android phone
- share your struggle with a friend and ask them to be persistently praying for you and asking you about it
- put your computer in a place in the house where everyone can see what you’re looking at
- NEVER have a computer in your room or anywhere that you can be all alone…
For many of you, you need to make some of these changes NOW!
So here’s to a Happy Thanksgiving Day and an end to pornography addiction!
Can you think of any other ways that we can make all 365 days of the year statistically resemble Thanksgiving Day?
I’m a pastor; and I use my past with porn to help others put porn in their past.